I came across a beautiful poem by @tessguinery on instagram that I found to be so beautiful and inspiring. It reminded me that it's ok to be honest and real, to go slow and care for yourself also. I hope you like it as much as I do.
If I choose to always grow,
maybe she will bloom like a wildflower.
If I make art from my everyday,
she too, will create her days full of colour.
If I let my tears fall and always when they need,
perhaps she’ll water the earth with an open heart.
If I’m clumsy-crazy and all about her Dad,
a beautiful-crazy-love is what her heart will search for.
If I let him forever romance me in the wake of day,
she will forever know no less.
If I say “I’m sorry”—even when it’s hard,
maybe she’ll be quick to forgive others.
If I choose to speak life in vibrant and rich colours,
let beige words never settle in her heart.
If I leave pretty love-notes, handwritten on every wall,
affirmations will line the depth of her soul.
If I choose the uncomfy and forever shake up my ways,
maybe she too, will stand to live life bold & brave.
If I take time to be alone & make dreaming paramount to my week,
she’ll learn solitude is important and a golden gift to seek.
If I look in the mirror and speak kind and gentle words,
she too, will forever know her worth.
If I fill our house with flowers, music & sweet loving scents,
maybe the silhouette of home will always be warmth.
If our front door is always open to those who are in need,
she’ll learn the golden purpose of life.
If I pray out loud and have real conversations with God,
maybe she’ll move mountains with her voice.
If I tell her I love her a million times a day,
maybe, just maybe, she’ll learn:
that even in my flaws,
and my mistakes,
I gave her my entire heart
- My motherhood monologue, by Tess Guinery
Today I filmed 3 quick yoga poses for you that I love to use, especially after sitting all day at the computer. They can help to increase mobility and relieve back tension due to stress, work or carrying the little ones...
I moved the camera halfway through the video to show the second pose and managed to chop my own forehead off... (again). Yepp, but who has time for perfection, right? So I went ahead and published it anyway ;)
Click Play to check it out.
As you can see from the logo at the top of this page, my website and blog has had a little makeover and is now called YinMama.co
We live in such a fast pace society which is very much yang dominated - going and doing and achieving, and we often forget to also rest, love and care for ourselves - which is Yin. A balance is essential in order for us to be happy and healthy women and mamas. As an Acupuncturist, Yoga instructor and now Life Coach, i'm passionate about inspiring and helping mamas to create more balance and calm within yourself and in your life. So YinMama is really all about just that - taking moments out of your day to also love and care for yourself.
Starting next week I am also offering one to one coaching sessions online!
During this 90 minute session we chat about what your needs are and what your idea of balance looks like. (much like I would in an acupuncture session), I help you map out where you might have some imbalances (within yourself and in your life) and share specific tools and action steps that you can take to create your balance and find more calm. These are tailored to your needs and may include things like mindset tools, yoga and meditation, acupressure and eft tapping, light healing and much more. You can book your session here.
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UNDERSTANDING & GOING WITH THE NATURAL FLOW OF YOUR CYCLE
In our society which is so dominated by yang - the masculine, we often push and go and do. Forgetting to also nourish the yin - the feminine, to rest and take a little break from all the hustle and bustle. We forget that we are cyclical beings where our hormones go up and down like a rollercoaster, and often treat our bodies the same regardless of which time of month we are in. Our periods are seen as annoying and inconvenient as we push on through the mind numbing cramps and desire to stay under the covers to be and do some more because that is what is expected and the norm in our society.
Today I want to give you a fresh perspective on your natural cycle that I hope will give you some clarity on why and how we can go with the natural flow of our body, instead of against it. When we treat our bodies with kindness and understanding, I believe we can experience much less stress and frustration, and much more energy and calm.
I want you to look at your cycle like the 4 seasons. Each phase is equally beautiful in its own way and has an energetic quality to it.
Day 1-7 of your cycle (when you bleed) is winter and Yin in quality.
This is a time of rest and we will naturally want to snuggle up to tune our attention inwards. Your bodies energy is at its lowest and so this is a time to respect that you need more rest and sleep. As mamas we cant just hibernate for a week as we have little ones who depend on us or ditch work, but we can choose to limit how much we do. This is a time to say no to harsh workouts (stick to walking and gentle yoga), limit social engagements unless you feel like it, and keep the to do list to a bare minimum. Knowing that your energy level is low and respecting that your body needs rest, I find really helps with ditching any feelings of being lazy or guilty for needing some down time.
Day 7-14 (pre-ovulation) is spring and Yang in quality.
This is a time when you will often feel lighter, happier and more energised (especially is you have given yourself time to rest during "winter"). This is a time to get back into your exercise regime, start new projects, try something new or spring clean the house towards the end of this phase. You may feel yourself wanting to be more social so this is a great time to meet new people and catch up with friends.
Day 14-21 (Ovulation phase) is Summer and Yang in quality.
This is a time to go and do as your energy is at its highest! You may naturally feel more outgoing, confident, playful and attractive;)
Day 21-28 (pre-menstrual phase) is Autumn and Yin in quality.
As the leaves start to fall, so do our hormones and energy levels. You may feel yourself become less extroverted and wanting to say no thank you to things. Its a great time to finish things as you "prepare for winter", reflect on the past month and let go of things that aren't serving you. As it is yin we often want to do gentler forms of exercise, but keep moving as movement can help with the free flow of energy necessary when we menstruate.
Side note; If you don't resonate with any of the above because you're feeling tired all the time, it could be a sign your body is out of balance. When we push ourselves too hard for too long, we can get symptoms of burn out and if so its time to slow down. Our body is always speaking to us, we just need to tune in to listen, so if its telling you to slow down and rest (wherever you are in your cycle), please do.
I hope this helps and that you have a wonderful week, wherever you are in your cycle.
Everything is energy. Have you ever walked into a room or a space that somehow felt heavy, dense, strange, cold or made you feel unexplainably uneasy? And walked into others that instantly made you feel lighter, happier and more relaxed?
Energy from people, conversations, emotional stress etc can linger in a room for a long time which is why I love to regularly cleanse our house (and myself) using sage! The sweet smelling thick white smoke from the dry herbs helps reset the energy.
You can purchase sage in some health food stores, crystal shops and online like iherb. Great times to sage could be after arguments, illness and anytime you feel stressed, heavy or down. I also like to sage before I do longer sessions of yoga and meditation practices.
Open doors and windows, perhaps unplug sensitive smoke alarms and light the sage. Leave it to burn for a few seconds then blow it out and walk around the room, pushing the smoke into corners with your hand. Make sure to put it out properly in a fireproof container. Notice how you feel after saging your house or particular room...
(Wanna make it extra woowoo? Use a feather to push the smoke around, walk anti-clockwise and say out loud; "With this sage I cleanse this room of all negative energy. Thank you, thank you, thank you").
Happy saging mama!
Today I wanna share with you one of my absolute favourite acupressure points -ShenMen (Heart7) which means "Spirit Gate".
According to Chinese Medicine, when we feel safe and protected, our Shen or Spirit is calm and resides in our heart. But anytime we experience large amounts of stress, or sudden emotional shock or trauma however, our spirit can scatter, leaving us feeling anxious, stressed and a little frantic. Luckily, this beautiful point can be used to calm our mind and spirit, easing symptoms of stress, anxiety and feeling scattered.
The point is located on the inner wrist in a little crease. Anytime you feel unsettled or anxious, try using this point by gently tapping on it using your forefinger and middle finger, or apply gentle pressure for 1-3 minutes. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
Sending you calm energy and lots of love,
I hope you've had or are still enjoying a wonderful summer mama. After 3 weeks of sun, fun and family time I'm feeling inspired and ready to dive back into the daily routines of mama life, work and all the exciting projects I have planned ahead (pssst exciting news to come in just a few weeks!)
As I do, I'm reminding myself to relax.. to breathe.. to take moments out of busy days to just be.. to listen to my body and rest when I'm tired.. to love myself, flaws and all because we are all perfectly imperfect.. to be grateful for all that I have and are and do.. to worry less about the mess and more about being present.. to let go of the "could have, should have, would have"... to have more fun, play and be silly..
Whether you're just starting your holidays or returning back to everyday life, I hope you'll do the same.
Nutrition is an interesting topic because as there is no one size fits all and we are all different. What might be right for me may not be the same for you and i really believe it's best to listen to your own body and get help from an expert in the field of nutrition any time we want to make any lifestyle changes. But recently I have had some questions about what i eat and so today i want to share with you 5 of my favourite foods that I normally eat every day...
1. Breakfast is a must for me and i love to have my avocado on toast with pomegranate and a hot cup of coffee... (i love coffee but limit myself to this one cup a day)
2. I Love a good Smoothie. Its such a simple and quick way to fill my body with healthy fruits and vegetables to boost my energy levels throughout the day when life is busy. (recipe on my favourite smoothies to come...)
Tip: According to Chinese medicine we should never drink it ice cold in the winter as your body will prefer to eat foods that are warm or at least room temperature when the weather is cold. Especially if you're a mama who tends to get easily cold or fatigued...
3. Chicken stock or broth... Sorry to offend any vegans/vegetarians out there, i know this one is controversial. Having been a vegetarian for a few years i do now eat a little bit of meat and chicken stock is just so amazing for your gut and immune system. I freeze it in ice cube trays and heat it up in soups, rice or quinoa for lunch or dinner.
4. Quinoa is a fantastic source of protein as it contains all the amino acids. I always have it for lunch with a salad and cook it with stock to give it tons of flavour.
5. Dates. I love everything sweet and dates cover my sweet cravings! They are a great source of energy and contain fiber, antioxidants and nutrients such as calcium and magnesium.
Tip: Mix 12 dates, 2 cups of nuts (cashew and walnuts are great) and 2 tbs of raw cocoa powder in a food processor. Roll into balls and enjoy as a yummy healthy treat!
To save time and energy thinking about "what should i eat today?" i eat a lot of the same foods everyday, varying a few things to keep it interesting and balanced. Dinner is a must for us that we enjoy making and enjoying as a family.
I don't count calories or weigh myself, i just try to focus on nourishing my body with the healthiest foods possible and focusing on how it makes my body feel after i eat it. I also make sure to eat enough throughout the day to maintain my energy levels. I know how easy it is to forget to eat when life is busy, but as the Norwegian saying goes; "Uten mat og drikke, duger mama ikke" - which is roughly translated into "without food and drink, you ain't gonna function mama!". And to be able to show up as our best selves, we need to make sure our bodies are getting its nutrients.
I hope this inspires you in some way to either add more foods to your plate or at least make sure you're eating enough healthy foods to boost your energy levels throughout your day. But just remember, you do what feels good for you!
Have a great one, Love
I really believe that meditation is THE most important thing we can do for ourselves and for those we love. I always try to start my day with a little meditation as I find it helps me to calm, clear and focus my mind. It also grounds me and helps me to connect with how I'm feeling. Throughout the day I find I'm much happier, more relaxed and present...
Meditation is really just a fancy word for tuning in to yourself. If you're new to it, turn off all distractions, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Thats it, you're meditating! It really is that simple...
When our mind is spinning with all the things we need to do, it isn't always so easy to stay focused. So I want to share 3 meditation apps that I have used and found to be lovely; Calm, Buddhify and my personal favourite Headspace.
They all have free trials so I would recommend taking them for a test ride to find what works for you. If you feel like it - commit to yourself to try a few minutes of meditation a day either by just focusing on your breath for a few minutes with your eyes closed or using an app. See how something so simple can transform how you feel and go about your day!
We all know it's important, but we often forget. So todays blog post is super simple; remember to hydrate mama.
Our bodies have been hard at work cleansing our system while we've been asleep so I always drink a large glass of water with lemon as soon as I wake up to re-hydrate. A tip is to keep a flask with you throughout the day.. Ditch the old plastic bottle and treat yourself to a beautiful new glass or metal one. Add some fresh berries, pomegranate or mint for flavour and you'll be surprised how inviting something so simple can be to have with us and to remind us to stay hydrated through our day.
My days are currently filled with lots of family time in the sunshine! Hope you're having a wonderful summer. Sending you love and light xxx