Being a mama is wonderful in so many ways! But it also means hectic schedules and very little me-time to also relax and care for yourself (without the mama guilt). Life can sometimes feel more stressful and busy, then easy, balanced and fun... And you can sometimes find yourself feeling frustrated, stressed or anxious, perhaps snapping at those you love and not managing to be fully present in the moment...
The never ending to do list, trying to balance work, family and social life on top of all the things you "should" be doing, can at times feel exhausting... And we all have that inner mean voice that sometimes talks us down and makes us feel like (no matter how much we do) we aren't being or doing enough... right?
We give so much of ourselves to everyone we love and everything we do, but so often forget to also fill our own cup. But I believe that happy mamas make for happy families and loving and caring for yourself isn't selfish, but absolutely necessary for your own health and happiness. I'm passionate about helping mamas to create more Balance and find more Calm within ourselves and in our life, so that we can feel more relaxed, present and happy! Because when we do, we have so much more to give back to those we love and the things we love to do.
I just wrote a brand new book that I'm so excited to share it with YOU! I'm calling it; The Relaxed, Present & Happy Mama. In it I share the 5 Simple (but Essential) steps to creating a more Balanced, Calm and Happy Mind, Body and Mama Life. (Even if you feel stressed, frustrated, exhausted or just too busy to find any time to care for yourself...)
Click here to get your free copy now :)
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did making it for you! Love,
As the leaves are turning orange and the temperature is dropping, fall has arrived. Every season has an energetic quality to it and Fall is Yin. This is a time when our energy levels are naturally lower and our need for rest and retreating inward is greater.
Every season is magical in its own way and today I want to share with you my top tips for embracing fall:
1. Fall is a great time to release what is no longer serving you. This could be decluttering your home, letting go of any emotional baggage you may be holding on too, resolving any tension in your relationships and simply practicing letting go of trying to control everything and just being in the present moment.
2. Your energy levels are naturally lower so balance out moving your body with enough rest and sleep. If you don't feel like being overly social, don't. If you need a full day or weekend to decompress and hibernate, it's ok. Make some arrangements, get a babysitter, ditch the guilt and do whatever you need to do to re-charge.
3.Give yourself some time in the mornings to wake up slowly and connect with how you're feeling.
4. Go through your closet and put away your summer clothes for next year. Donate or sell any clothes you don't absolutely love or use regularly so that your closet is only full of clothes that make you feel relaxed, happy and beautiful (and warm!).
5. Make your home a little sanctuary for the whole family by separating areas for play and areas for relaxing. (Perhaps filling the relaxing area with some dried flowers, candles and soft cushions and throws, perfect for snuggling and sipping cocoa together).
6. Spend time in nature. Dress up warm and head outdoors to enjoy the crisp cool air. When you get back home, dim the lights, light some candles and embrace the yin energy of fall.
This is me and my family, and what YinMama is all about :)
Love & Light,
I came across a beautiful poem by @tessguinery on instagram that I found to be so beautiful and inspiring. It reminded me that it's ok to be honest and real, to go slow and care for yourself also. I hope you like it as much as I do.
If I choose to always grow,
maybe she will bloom like a wildflower.
If I make art from my everyday,
she too, will create her days full of colour.
If I let my tears fall and always when they need,
perhaps she’ll water the earth with an open heart.
If I’m clumsy-crazy and all about her Dad,
a beautiful-crazy-love is what her heart will search for.
If I let him forever romance me in the wake of day,
she will forever know no less.
If I say “I’m sorry”—even when it’s hard,
maybe she’ll be quick to forgive others.
If I choose to speak life in vibrant and rich colours,
let beige words never settle in her heart.
If I leave pretty love-notes, handwritten on every wall,
affirmations will line the depth of her soul.
If I choose the uncomfy and forever shake up my ways,
maybe she too, will stand to live life bold & brave.
If I take time to be alone & make dreaming paramount to my week,
she’ll learn solitude is important and a golden gift to seek.
If I look in the mirror and speak kind and gentle words,
she too, will forever know her worth.
If I fill our house with flowers, music & sweet loving scents,
maybe the silhouette of home will always be warmth.
If our front door is always open to those who are in need,
she’ll learn the golden purpose of life.
If I pray out loud and have real conversations with God,
maybe she’ll move mountains with her voice.
If I tell her I love her a million times a day,
maybe, just maybe, she’ll learn:
that even in my flaws,
and my mistakes,
I gave her my entire heart
- My motherhood monologue, by Tess Guinery
Everything is energy. Have you ever walked into a room or a space that somehow felt heavy, dense, strange, cold or made you feel unexplainably uneasy? And walked into others that instantly made you feel lighter, happier and more relaxed?
Energy from people, conversations, emotional stress etc can linger in a room for a long time which is why I love to regularly cleanse our house (and myself) using sage! The sweet smelling thick white smoke from the dry herbs helps reset the energy.
You can purchase sage in some health food stores, crystal shops and online like iherb. Great times to sage could be after arguments, illness and anytime you feel stressed, heavy or down. I also like to sage before I do longer sessions of yoga and meditation practices.
Open doors and windows, perhaps unplug sensitive smoke alarms and light the sage. Leave it to burn for a few seconds then blow it out and walk around the room, pushing the smoke into corners with your hand. Make sure to put it out properly in a fireproof container. Notice how you feel after saging your house or particular room...
(Wanna make it extra woowoo? Use a feather to push the smoke around, walk anti-clockwise and say out loud; "With this sage I cleanse this room of all negative energy. Thank you, thank you, thank you").
Happy saging mama!
Came across this video by JJ Heller on motherhood. It warmed my heart and I wanna share it with you! We don't realise how much our mamas did for us. How challenging, transformational and wonderful it truly is until we become mamas ourselves...
Let's fill our days with gratitude for all that our mothers have done for us and for the amazing job we are doing ourselves. Let's focus on being present with our little ones, filling our time together with giggles and seeing the magic in small everyday moments.
Have a wonderful week, Love
When life is busy, it's so EASY to loose that precious balance and forget to prioritise moments to slow down, tune-in and care for ourselves.
For most of us, lack of balance often builds up so gradually that we don't even realise it until it has manifested itself as physical symptoms (stress, frustration, anxiety and exhaustion) or in our relationships (irritability, snapping and arguing). We can often feel like life is hard, stressful and overwhelming, with "no time" to spend quality time with those we love or the things we love to do!
I've been burnt out before and had my fair share of ups and downs in the past which is why I'm so passionate about health, wellness and having balance in our lives. When i follow my own advice and do the things i know creates balance within myself and my life, things are amazing! But when i forget and neglect myself or the things I know I need to do (because im too busy or don't feel like it), things go downhill pretty fast.
But see the universe has a way of doing that when she's trying to teach us something. First its a kind tap on the shoulder, a feeling of something not being quite right (but we often ignore it). Then she nudges and pushes us a little harder... And if we continue to ignore whatever is that is going on, she knocks your over the head and flips your life upside down so you're forced to deal with it.
When life happens and we loose balance, we can see it as an opportunity to learn, grow and become even better versions of ourselves. We just need to sit with the uncomfortableness, accept it and create a new way moving forward.
I'm so grateful to have my health, my family and close friends who love and support me everyday. But the internal work - loving and caring for myself so that i can truly show up in life as the person and mama i want to be today and moving forward, thats on me. So today i want to share with you some of the things that I've been doing recently to make sure I'm staying balanced.
1. I'm prioritising extra time to tune-in with myself through meditation and yoga to connect, calm my mind and relax my body.
2. I'm focusing on my Mindset and treating myself with love, kindness and understanding. We all make mistakes and no one is perfect. Accept it, let it go and move forward. This weeks mantra has been; "Do it with balance and joy, or not at all"
3. Making sure i get enough rest & sleep. Long baths and early nights... As well as nourishing my body with healthy foods (and a little chocolate...)
4. Connection. Away with meaningless distractions (social media) and lots of giggles and fun with Matheo. Honest and open conversations with those i love. Always a little uncomfortable but oh so necessary to heal, move on and create even better relationships.
5. Nourishing my beautiful body with healthy foods (and a little chocolate...)
I've really been craving connecting with more like minded mamas - soul sisters really. So last week i reached out to a new mama i didn't know (the wife of one of my husbands colleagues) and asked her out for a coffee. We hit it off instantly and after 4 hours of chatting, I feel so grateful to have made a new friend. Sometimes we just need to get over the fear, get out there and take a chance (may it be friendships, dating or a new opportunity. It may just work out perfectly ;)
This turned in to a long blog post but i just wanted to remind you that sometimes the toughest weeks can be the most transformational as they push us to take the necessary action we need to take to feel more balanced, relaxed, present and happy within ourselves and in our lives. When we do the inner work, we also have so much more to give back to those we love! I hope that this can inspire and motivate you to stop, re-evaluate, tweak and move forward with balance beautiful mama...
Have a magical week. Love
I hope you've had a wonderful easter beautiful!
So a few months ago I sent out a questionnaire to everyone on my email list, hoping to to get some ideas for what to write on the blog that would be both inspiring and helpful. The response was amazing, thank you for taking the time to answer me so honestly.
A few of the things that we seem to all struggle with is; wanting to have more balance in our lives, stress and negative self-talk - feeling like no matter what we do, we are never being or doing enough...
I really believe that having balance in mind, body and life, and prioritising moments out of our day to love and care for ourselves, is the key to our happiness and wellbeing. So I decided to create a New Free 3-part Video Series that covers how we can do this.
This video series is exclusive to those on my email list so check your inbox for an email from me with the subject "Video1(of 3) How to create balance in 3 simple steps..."
Grab yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and hit play. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did making it for you!
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Lots of love
PRIORITISING SOME ME-TIME TO NOURISH YOUR SPIRIT
Life as a mama is busy and we give so much of ourselves, gladly. The days are amazing and full of love and hilarious moments! But there are also moments that are stressful, chaotic, monotonous and (dare I say it...) a little boring?
So I really believe that it's so important for us not to forget to nourish the person that we are outside of our mama role. We need to prioritise moments to do the things that nourish our spirit.
Often we just feel too tired and when we do finally get a moment to ourselves, we just want to rest and sleep! (guilty...) Now of course we should rest when we are tired, but often "sleep doesn't help if your soul is tired". So my tip this week is to take a little bit of time throughout the day or in the evening, to do something just for you that lights you up and brings you joy! It could be an old hobby or trying something new that you've always wanted to try...
Personally I love being creative and I have always loved photography, but in the past I was just never any good at it. So last year when I decided to create my blog, I knew that I wanted to share lots of helpful wellness tips while it also being aesthetically pleasing to look at. So I took it up as a hobby and, although I have a lot to learn, it's something that I love to spend some of my me-time doing.
So what brings you joy mama? what do you love to do, just for you?
Have a great day, Lots of Love
P.S I took these photo's of the most beautiful cherry blossom that you have ever seen, just outside our house. Spring is here, remember to stop and smell the flowers.
Take some time this week to do something lovely for yourself. Here are my 5 top lovely things to do for you to feel good.
1. Flex your self-love muscle and write down 5 things you love and appreciate about yourself.
2. Buy yourself a beautiful bunch of fresh flowers, just for being you...
3. Plan to get up 30 min earlier tomorrow to enjoy a delicious breakfast and listen to an inspiring podcast or feel good tunes before the rest of the world wakes up.
4. Stop whatever you're doing and have a good stretch. Take a few deep breaths to calm and centre yourself.
5. Olalla by Blanco White has being playing on repeat all week. Take a break from whatever it is your doing, hit play here and dance around the room before continuing your day.
Wishing you a lovely week ;)
Lots of love