I hope you've had a wonderful easter!
So a few months ago I sent out a questionnaire to everyone on my email list, hoping to to get some ideas for what to write on the blog that would be both inspiring and helpful. The response was amazing, thank you for taking the time to answer me so honestly.
A few of the things that we seem to all struggle with is; wanting to have more balance in our lives, stress and negative self-talk - feeling like no matter what we do, we are never being or doing enough...
I really believe that having balance in mind, body and life, and prioritising moments out of our day to love and care for ourselves, is the key to our happiness and wellbeing. So I decided to create a New Free 3-part Video Series that covers how we can do this. I'm calling it; How to create balance, love and care for ourselves (even when life is busy), in just 3 simple steps...
This video series is exclusive to those on my email list so join the Mama Go Me Time Tribe below this post or here to get free access (and your free Ebook). If you're already a member, check your inbox for an email from me with the subject "Video1(of 3) How to create balance in 3 simple steps..."!
Grab yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and hit play.
Hope you enjoy it and take care.
Lots of love
PRIORITISING SOME ME-TIME TO NOURISH YOUR SPIRIT
Life as a mama is busy and we give so much of ourselves, gladly. The days are amazing and full of love and hilarious moments! But there are also moments that are stressful, chaotic, monotonous and (dare I say it...) a little boring?
So I really believe that it's so important for us not to forget to nourish the person that we are outside of our mama role. We need to prioritise moments to do the things that nourish our spirit.
Often we just feel too tired and when we do finally get a moment to ourselves, we just want to rest and sleep! (guilty...) Now of course we should rest when we are tired, but often "sleep doesn't help if your soul is tired". So my tip this week is to take a little bit of time throughout the day or in the evening, to do something just for you that lights you up and brings you joy! It could be an old hobby or trying something new that you've always wanted to try...
Personally I love being creative and I have always loved photography, but in the past I was just never any good at it. So last year when I decided to create my blog, I knew that I wanted to share lots of helpful wellness tips while it also being aesthetically pleasing to look at. So I took it up as a hobby and, although I have a lot to learn, it's something that I love to spend some of my me-time doing.
So what brings you joy mama? what do you love to do, just for you?
Have a great day, Lots of Love
P.S I took these photo's of the most beautiful cherry blossom that you have ever seen, just outside our house. Spring is here, remember to stop and smell the flowers.
5 LOVELY THINGS TO DO FOR YOU
Take some time this week to do something lovely for yourself. Here are my 5 top lovely things to do for you to feel good.
1. Flex your self-love muscle and write down 5 things you love and appreciate about yourself.
2. Buy yourself a beautiful bunch of fresh flowers, just for being you.
3. Plan to get up 30 min earlier tomorrow to enjoy a delicious breakfast and listen to an inspiring podcast or feel good tunes before the rest of the world wakes up.
4. Stop whatever you're doing and have a good stretch. Take a few deep breaths to calm and centre yourself.
5. Olalla by Blanco White has being playing on repeat all week. Take a break from whatever it is your doing, hit play here and dance around the room before continuing your day.
Wishing you a lovely week ;)
Lots of love
WHAT'S YOUR MAMA MANTRA?
A mantra is a word, sentence or phrase that you repeat to yourself frequently. We use them a lot in yoga and meditation as it can help you stay in the present moment and shift your focus to how you want to think or feel. They're also great for training your mind to be more positive, confident and calm.
I like to use them as little reminders of how I want feel that day and in moments of stress or frustration. Like today when my toddler had his second mini meltdown before 7am and refused to put on his shoes... It was just one of those mornings where I needed to take a deep breath and remind myself to keep calm and just relax.
Mantras are only words so for them to actually have an impact, you need to say them with intention, feel it in your heart and even try to visualise whatever it is you want to feel. I simply close my eyes, breathe and repeat my mantra while imagining that I see myself however I want to feel or be. The more often you do it, the more you believe it!
So today I want to share with you a few of my favourite mantras;
Whenever I feel anxious and like I need to control everything, I use the mantra; "When I let go, I let love in"
When I don't feel like I'm doing or being enough; "I am doing my best and we are all learning" or "I have enough, I do enough, I am enough"
When I can't seem to stop thinking ahead and just be present; "Life is happening now, enjoy it"
And when I catch myself being negative or complaining, I like to remind myself of the quote I once read; "Did you have a bad day, or just a bad 5 minutes that you milked all day?"
So pick your favourite quote or phrase (or use one of mine if you're stuck for ideas) and make it your own mantra. Write it down and place it somewhere (like the fridge, your mirror or workspace) where you can easily see it everyday and be reminded to think or say it out loud.
You are amazing, always enough and the best mama to your child(ren). In the everyday chaos that sometimes is motherhood, I think we all need a daily reminder.
Lots of love
CHOCOLATE LOVE FOR VALENTINES DAY
We don't really celebrate valentines day, but any excuse to indulge in some chocolate and do something lovely for yourself and/or the one you love, is always a good idea!
Anyone who knows me knows that chocolate is my weakness and I love to bake. So this morning I carved some me-time out of my busy schedule to make a quick and simple chocolate mousse that I decorated with dried edible lavender and rose petals, to surprise my boys with tomorrow.
I'm also throwing a dinner party on Saturday so now dessert is done too, yeay!
It's all about balance so this weeks tip is to make or buy yourself and the one(s) you love, something yummy!
Wishing you a day full of love and happiness.
P.S. Got a few questions about what recipe I used and it was a super quick and simple one by a Norwegian baker. But whenever I want to indulge in some delicious (but also nutritious) treats, I love love love Deliciously Ella. Check her out if you haven't already!
5 HEALTHY MORNING HABITS FOR A CALM & HAPPY MAMA
Creating my own morning routine has ultimately transformed the way I feel and go about my day. This used to be me: Snooze, drag myself out of bed, rush around like a crazy person, run out the door a little half put together and feeling like I was somehow behind on everything all day... (this got a little worse after having my son...).
So about a year ago I created my own personal morning routine - a fixed set of positive habits that help me start my day feeling focused, present, calm and happy, and I want to share them with you! It requires a bit of self-discipline, but its oh so worth it.
We are all different and need to find what works for ourselves. But here are my 5 top healthy habits for a calm and happy mama who's ready to take on the day!
1. Get up 20-30 min before you need to (with no snoozing). I have always been a snoozer... but the past year I have forced myself to get up the moment the alarm goes off so that I can have a some me-time. Simple things like taking an extra long shower, do my makeup and put on "nice" clothes (not half dirty sweatpants) or simply enjoying a cup of coffee in peace before the rest of the world wakes up, makes me feel like a person.
2. Re-hydrate first thing in the morning. Our bodies have been hard at work cleansing our system while we've been asleep so I always drink a large glass of water with freshly squeezed lemon juice to re-hydrate and cleanse my body.
3. No technology for the first hour of the day! It's so easy to reach for our phones and start checking our social media and emails the minute we're awake. But we're really only filling our minds with other things going on in the world before I've even had a chance to check-in with myself. So my 3rd tip is to be present with your family and to tune in to yourself first. The rest of the world can wait...
4. Close your eyes and focus on your breath for a few minutes. Ask yourself: how am I feeling today? Focus on 3 things you are grateful for.
5. Movement. I personally don't like to exercise early in the morning (I'm always amazed at those who manage to squeeze in a spinning class first thing), but its just not for me... However doing some gentle yoga stretching or going for a short walk in the fresh air helps clear my head and get focused.
I hope you find these tips helpful!
Take care, lots of love
HAPPY CARDS WITH POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Cuteness overload! I recently purchased a box of Happy cards with positive affirmations and inspiring quotes that I have fallen in love with. Every morning, my son and I pick a new card and I leave it on my desk all day as a reminder to smile and relax.
These are by a Norwegian designer called Camilla Pihl and are currently only for sale in Norway and Sweden. However I have found two other options for you!
Daily affirmation cards can be a great way to remind ourselves to be kind, loving, appreciative and generous towards ourselves and those we love.
Just a little tip for a bit of everyday magic.
Lots of love
The past year I have become aware of how powerful setting goals and intentions can be. It helps me focus on what really matters and so it becomes easier to plan and prioritise how, with what and with whom I wish to spend my time.
I think my problem in the past has been that the goals I have set haven’t been specific enough or I haven’t actually added HOW I'm going to achieve them. So I wanted to write what I have learnt and how I go about setting goals, in hopes that it can help you too to plan and go in to the new year feeling confident, relaxed and happy.
So beautiful mama, when you have a moment to yourself, make a cup of tea, grab your journal or a piece of paper and pen and get comfy.
Before actually setting any goals, I like to reflect on the past year. It goes by so quick that we often forget to stop and check in with ourselves about how we feel and where we are now. It’s so important to let go of any challenges or disappointments we may have had, celebrate our wins and focus on all that we have learnt and evolved along the way.
A few questions I like to ask myself is:
Did I have any challenges in 2018 and if so, how did I deal with them and what did I learn?
What would I like to leave behind, let go of or stop doing in to 2019?
Did I step out of my comfort zone and grow as a person, as a mama, in my relationships and in my work life?
What am I most proud of for having achieved this year?
What am I most grateful for having experienced this year?
I truly believe that we all have the ability to change any circumstance we are in and achieve our dreams and goals whatever they may be, but we need to take small actions steps daily to achieve them. And to do so we need to know what we really want so we can make a plan as to how we are going to get there.
So next, with an open heart, I ask myself:
What do I want my everyday life to be like, really? Not what society or social media says your life should be like or what other friends are doing with theirs…
What do I want to do spend my time doing?
What do I need to do?
What inspires, motivates and brings me joy?
What areas of my life do I wish to focus on? Is it nourishing my body with healthier foods, being a more present mama, doing more fun family activities, building a stronger relationship with certain people, develop a personal skill, or advance my career?
I try to be specific, realistic and kind with myself when setting goals. They should make you feel excited, motivated and inspired, not stressed or overwhelmed. Avoiding vague statements like “be super healthy, i instead try to think; “focus on nourishing my body with healthy foods that make me feel good and full of energy” or “move my body for min 30 minutes a day either with walking, yoga or going to the gym so i feel relaxed and happy”.
Lastly, what action steps do I need to take to make them happen? The more specific you are, the easier it is to measure when you have achieved your goals...
I hope this inspire you to take a moment to reflect on the past year and get clear on what you want and need :) Happy New Year!
Lots of love