Monday was mothers day here in Norway and today is valentines day - both a lovely reminder to show yourself and those you care about some extra love!
Wanted to share with you 3 of my favourite quotes that I recently posten on instagram;
The best things in life are free so celebrate today with extra hugs, kisses and gratitude for all that you have, all those you love and all that you are
Have a wonderful weekend, love
So often we overcommit.
But if you're feeling stressed or tired, doing more is not the answer. Take a step back and re-evaluate what you're doing and what is important to you. Here are my top tips for creating more time and space for you to be you, to say yes to not overcommiting.
Be ruthless with your to do list. Prioritise and only put what is absolutely necessary. I aim to only put 3 items a day on my to do list. That way I feel great when I tick them all off! (instead of feeling like I somehow failed when all 25 things didn't get done that realistically would probably take me a month to do anyhow...)
Only say yes to the things you really need to do and want to do. Don't people please or do something just because you feel you should. if it doesn't feel right, say no (nicely)
Leave gaps throughout your day to just be. to breathe. or to catch up on the things that you needed to do but didn't get done...
And remember it's ok to change your mind. You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to take a step back, question and re-evaluate.
Be kind to yourself. Do less of what depletes you and say yes to more of the things that energises you.
What are you say yes to right now that doesn't feel in alignment? how can you (gently) choose to say yes to yourself today and to what truly matters?
Have a wonderful day, Love
On Monday morning I woke up feeling rushed, frustrated and like I was somehow behind on my very long to do list for today (despite it only being 7am)...
I wanted to just ignore these feelings and push through, despite feeling a huge resistance that only made me more irritable. I wanted to get on with this crappy Monday, feel a little sorry for myself and start afresh tomorrow...
We all have days like this where things feel well, a little off... But remember that we can, in any given moment, choose to change how we feel! It just takes a little inspired action and a willingness to do so... The key word here being inspired as ignoring these feelings and pushing through will only really create more tension.
So today I want to share with you the 4 things I did to turn my day right around! that I hope can inspire you the next time you find yourself feeling the way I did on Monday morning.
1. I stopped for a moment to acknowledge and accept how I was feeling.
2. Then I made a quick list of what I actually needed to focus on today and which things I could simply remove because they weren't urgent. Reminding myself that doing anything with frustrated or pushy energy wouldn't be beneficial anyway and accepting that not everything has to happen today (something I'm currently working on - patience), helps to release some of the pressure.
3. I went to my favourite yoga class. Sounds idyllic but the resistance I felt as I was going through this Monday morning flow was unbearable at times. I was fighting the need to let go, of surrendering to the present moment and of tuning in to myself and accepting these feelings... It was only towards the end of the class during savasana (relaxation) that I actually felt all these feelings release.
Now I know that not everyone has the same flexibility, but frustration and stress is only stagnated energy in the body and movement moves this energy. So what is something you can do to move your energy while also tuning in to how you're feeling? 15min of stretching while your kids have breakfast or choosing to walk/bike to work with the intention of accepting and letting it all go, can have the same benefit as a morning yoga class. This is perhaps the only place you should push through the resistance of wanting to move your body, but doing so gently could be exactly what you need to help yourself out of the funk.
4. I simply chose to smile and try to release all need to control whatever happens today. To let things be. To flow with whatever happens instead of pushing and creating more resistance. In doing so, I turned my day around and had the best most productive Monday ever.
Knowing that you can change how you feel in any given moment by taking a few simple action steps like moving your body and shifting your focus, can be extremely empowering. So I hope that your day is wonderful regardless of how it started, and that you choose to smile and be grateful for where you are in this exact moment (or try the steps above to shift your focus to feeling your best today...).
Hi and happy New Year!
I hope you've had a restful and lovely holiday spent with those you love.
It's a new year and with that often comes New Years resolutions and great expectations to all we are going to be and do. We live in such a fast pace society which is very much yang dominated (going, doing, pushing and working hard), where we give so much of ourselves to everyone and everything we do...
But so often we don't have time, forget or perhaps don't always know how to really nurture the Yin aspect, which is all about resting, restoring and doing the things that fill our own cup. And with the pressure of all the things we "should" be doing to have this seemingly "perfect" life, its no wonder we can feel exhausted, overworked and stressed times...
So let's instead aim to be less busy this year. Less trying to be and do everything perfectly. Less missing out on the present moment because we're too wrapped up in our to do lists and planning the future...
Let's do less of what depletes us and more of what lights us up! Let's be open to more self-kindness. More compassion. More love.
Let's bring awareness to how we are talking to ourselves and focus on taking moments out of our busy day to also rest and care for ourselves.
I believe that when this is our intention, we open ourselves up to actually feeling more joyful, more calm, more energised and happier within ourselves. The small actions we take daily (or lack thereof in some cases), gradually shapes the life we live and how we feel. So let's aim to do less this year by putting less pressure on ourselves, asking for help and accepting it, even if it isn't done exactly like you would do it.
Have a wonderful week. Love
As the holidays approach and never ending to do lists can take up quite a bit of brain energy, its easy to find yourself feeling overwhelmed...
Sometimes we may not even realise that we are overwhelmed so symptoms to look for are; being unable to make a descision, doing a million things at once but not actually finishing anything, feeling frazzled, rapid mood swings and snapping at those around you.
We all feel it sometimes so today I want to share the 3 things I do whenever I find myself feeling stressed or overwhelmed...
I watched a ted talk this morning by Susan Cain, author of the best selling book Quiet; The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking.
She was talking about how our society today, our school systems, the way many work places are run, are all designed to make us more outgoing, more collaborative, more extroverted because we learn as we grow up that taking action, being outgoing, loud and busy is the way to succeed in life. And so people who are naturally more introverted or highly sensitive may feel pushed to be and do more more than what feels natural to them, because if not we somehow believe that we are "failing" or not being or doing enough...
So if you're an extrovert, fantastic. Be an extrovert and to be honest (although I think everyone needs more Yin in their life to tune-in, relax, nurture and care for themselves), my blog may not quite resonate with you because you may not have the same need for calm in your life. But if you're an introvert or ambivert like me (someone who is social and enjoys being an extrovert but needs a lot of me-time to re-charge), then I want to encourage you to allow yourself the time and space that you need to be you.
It also go me thinking about how I can better support my son because he is an introvert who enjoys time to just sit and play or read quietly beside us after a long day playing at nursery. Sometimes I feel we "should" be doing this or that because it's expected or what the neighbours or our friends are doing. But he is happy so why would I push him to do something that isn't him? I think that if we can learn to respect our own needs as an individual and as a family, we create much less stress in our lives and we are naturally supporting the truth of who we really are. And as Susan says in her talk, often the greatest insights, ideas and solutions come when we tune in to ourselves, sit with our own thoughts and calm the noise around us...
So what are you doing today (this could be your job, your hobbies, social settings) that you do because somehow along the way you believed that this is what you "should" be doing? What do you want to do more or less of in your life to support who you really are?
Love & Light
P.S. Here is a link to the Ted Talk if you want to watch something very inspiring;
I came across a beautiful poem by @tessguinery on instagram that I found to be so beautiful and inspiring. It reminded me that it's ok to be honest and real, to go slow and care for yourself also. I hope you like it as much as I do.
If I choose to always grow,
maybe she will bloom like a wildflower.
If I make art from my everyday,
she too, will create her days full of colour.
If I let my tears fall and always when they need,
perhaps she’ll water the earth with an open heart.
If I’m clumsy-crazy and all about her Dad,
a beautiful-crazy-love is what her heart will search for.
If I let him forever romance me in the wake of day,
she will forever know no less.
If I say “I’m sorry”—even when it’s hard,
maybe she’ll be quick to forgive others.
If I choose to speak life in vibrant and rich colours,
let beige words never settle in her heart.
If I leave pretty love-notes, handwritten on every wall,
affirmations will line the depth of her soul.
If I choose the uncomfy and forever shake up my ways,
maybe she too, will stand to live life bold & brave.
If I take time to be alone & make dreaming paramount to my week,
she’ll learn solitude is important and a golden gift to seek.
If I look in the mirror and speak kind and gentle words,
she too, will forever know her worth.
If I fill our house with flowers, music & sweet loving scents,
maybe the silhouette of home will always be warmth.
If our front door is always open to those who are in need,
she’ll learn the golden purpose of life.
If I pray out loud and have real conversations with God,
maybe she’ll move mountains with her voice.
If I tell her I love her a million times a day,
maybe, just maybe, she’ll learn:
that even in my flaws,
and my mistakes,
I gave her my entire heart
- My motherhood monologue, by Tess Guinery
3 SIMPLE WAYS TO MAKE GRATITUDE A DAILY HABIT
Choosing to focus on the positive in our life and showing appreciation for all that we are and have, is possibly the fastest, simplest and most powerful way of improving our own well-being and happiness.
Research suggests that feeling grateful can help reduce stress, improve our mental and physical health, increase empathy, ease depression, improve our relationships and foster long-term happiness. All pretty good reasons for making it a part of our daily lives!
"When you trade you're expectations for appreciation, you're whole world changes in an instant" - Tony Robbins
Here are my top 3 tips for making gratitude a daily habit:
1. Decide to make it a priority to take a moment each day (or several throughout) to think or write down what you are grateful for. Personally, I like to start and end my day with thinking of 3 things I am grateful for before I get up in the morning and before I drift off to sleep...
2. Write a gratitude list and put it on the fridge or start a gratitude journal. Write down what you are grateful for and read it often, especially if you're feeling down.
3. Show appreciation for those you love daily, verbally and through gestures. Simple things like saying thank you and complementing your family members and friends for all that they are and do daily. It's easy to get wrapped up in busy schedules and take the people we love for granted...
Cultivating gratitude daily challenges you to think of new things that you appreciate. It can be things like your family, friends and home, but also the little things that matter like the sun hitting your face as you breathe in the fresh fall air, or a cup of hot coffee you get to enjoy in peace before the whole world wakes up.
It's impossible to feel anger, fear or worry when we are truly grateful - Tony Robbins
What are you grateful for in this moment? Close your eyes and really feel it.
Have a lovely day! Lots of love
I hope you've had or are still enjoying a wonderful summer mama. After 3 weeks of sun, fun and family time I'm feeling inspired and ready to dive back into the daily routines of mama life, work and all the exciting projects I have planned ahead (pssst exciting news to come in just a few weeks!)
As I do, I'm reminding myself to relax.. to breathe.. to take moments out of busy days to just be.. to listen to my body and rest when I'm tired.. to love myself, flaws and all because we are all perfectly imperfect.. to be grateful for all that I have and are and do.. to worry less about the mess and more about being present.. to let go of the "could have, should have, would have"... to have more fun, play and be silly..
Whether you're just starting your holidays or returning back to everyday life, I hope you'll do the same.
This week is Mental Health Awareness Week worldwide! And because I believe that caring for our mind (and body) and really loving ourselves is so important to our health and happiness, I have created a simple 7 Day Mindset & Self-Love Challenge for you
I believe that self-love is absolutely necessary for our health and happiness and its something we all need to work on daily. How we think and feel within ourselves effects how we experience everything that happens in our life and I believe that when we treat ourselves with love and kindness, we are much kinder and more loving towards those we love and, lets face it, we are just much nicer to be around...
It's so easy to get stuck focusing on all the things we don't do or can't do or all our tiny flaws, that we overlook and forget to appreciate how amazing we truly are!
So each day for the next 6 days I will email you a simple task that I believe can help to grow your self-love and thereby your happiness and wellbeing!
Todays challenge is to write a list of 5 things you love and appreciate about yourself. Put it on your fridge or bathroom mirror to remind yourself of how amazing you truly are.
Check your inbox today for an invite to join The 7 Day Mindset & Self-Love Challenge and receive the next 6 daily emails.
Join to get your free Ebook (7 Essential Self-Love & Care Habits Every Mama Needs To Know) and join the challenge the next time it becomes available!
Wishing you a wonderful day, Love